Women: How Does a Man Think?Rodney Winters | July 25, 2010One of my motivations for writing Go Into The House was to help men who have gone through a difficult marriage/divorce without a support system to aid them through the process. As I state in the book’s introduction, men don’t often talk about certain pains and struggles. I wrote about mine because I believed others could benefit from my experience. The statistics show that women are much more prolific readers than men. To market my book exclusively to men would eliminate a majority of the potential audience. However, men were never my only target audience. The book is also directed to women, because I have found that women want to hear a man’s perspective, especially when it comes to relationships. This trend can be seen in the popularity of books such as Steve Harvey’s, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. And, the principles in Go Into The House can be applied to any major disappointment in life–relational or otherwise, whether you are male or female. While I have received excellent feedback from men who have read my book, the majority of the readers and responders have been women. This comes as no great surprise, given the statistics. Women have told me they’ve appreciated my candidness in sharing my experience. Some have admitted that my story has helped them realize things they have done in their own relationships. Talking openly and honestly about relationships is a key to helping improve relationships and maintaining healthy ones. Our silence as men has contributed to the problem. I admit, it’s not always easy to share, but so much is at stake. It’s worth the risk. Let’s keep the conversation going! 3 CommentsLeave a comment |
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How does a man think? Ummmm. Based on what we as women have been taught by our mothers, sisters, girfriends, women whom we respect and have come to regard as “possible” experts on the subject based on their various experiences with men in their lives such as, fathers, brothers, husbands, boyfriends, uncles, and other men in their lives who at one time or another held a position of importance in their lives; society/culture, media, history, your own personal experiences and circle of influence etc, can and many times does set the framework for what “WE THINK” a man thinks like. Unfortunately, much of this has also served to “stereotype” and we as women still come up “way” short in really knowing what a man thinks like. Honestly, I am not exactly sure what a man thinks like at any particular time or at all times although I feel that I’ve gained some insight as it relates to my personal experiences, trial and error, such as it’s not always the easiest thing for a man to “share” or men don’t share as quickly or freely as women do. However, putting aside the aforementioned framework, I’d rather not utilize preset parameters, or the assumptions and experiences of my circle of influence and just find out from a man/men how he/they think. Sometimes the answer can be as simple as “asking.”
How Does a Man Think? That is the question of the hour! There are days when I feel like ONLY God knows. It is not our responsibility to “figure out” what others are thinking. When left to “figure out” any given situation the conclusion may be different for all parties involved. We should be open and honest about what it is we are thinking and feeling. As stated by the author, communication is key!
We do want to hear a man’s perspective regarding relationships. It actually gives us an inkling of what men are thinking. Perspective provides insight.
I agree that it is not always easy for men to share. It is risky and taking risks can create uneasiness. However, it is worth the risk if two people are willing to take that risk together!
I thought that the book was great! The writer did an excellant job by relating the biblical story of the prodical son, but focusing on the character that we typically here the least about, the other (older) brother. It really shows a lot of knowledge to open up that story, in a different light.
The author also had to be commended for the detailed events that he chose to share about his own troubled marriage.