Rodney A. Winters

Forgiveness: A Key to Recovery

Rodney Winters | September 2, 2010

I believe one of the keys to recovering from failure is experiencing forgiveness from those we have hurt. Unfortunately this is not always possible. Those individuals we have offended may be unwilling to forgive. They may no longer be alive. One can still, however, experience God’s forgiveness. It only requires repentance and confession on our part.

One must also be willing to be on the giving end of forgiveness. We should forgive others just as we have been forgiven by God. We cannot afford to fall into the trap of bitterness. Extending forgiveness is not so much for the person who has wronged us, as it is for ourselves. Many times the person that we are holding hostage with our unforgiveness is not even aware or affected by it. We are the ones who are being eaten up on the inside by our resentment. We lose sleep, experience health issues, or become agitated when we think about what that person has done to us. We need to release that person and trust God to make things right.

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Monthly Poll – August

Rodney Winters | August 2, 2010

Fifty-seven percent of last month’s poll respondents indicated that counseling is very important to the success of a relationship. There was a three-way tie for “Somewhat Important”, “Undecided”, and “Not Very Important”. This month’s question is a difficult one, in my opinion:

Would you get a divorce if your spouse cheated on you?

Sadly, many spouses today find themselves facing this decision.

Choose your answer at the bottom right, and feel free to comment. You can do so anonymously.

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Women: How Does a Man Think?

Rodney Winters | July 25, 2010

One of my motivations for writing Go Into The House was to help men who have gone through a difficult marriage/divorce without a support system to aid them through the process. As I state in the book’s introduction, men don’t often talk about certain pains and struggles. I wrote about mine because I believed others could benefit from my experience.

The statistics show that women are much more prolific readers than men. To market my book exclusively to men would eliminate a majority of the potential audience. However, men were never my only target audience.

The book is also directed to women, because I have found that women want to hear a man’s perspective, especially when it comes to relationships. This trend can be seen in the popularity of books such as Steve Harvey’s, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. And, the principles in Go Into The House can be applied to any major disappointment in life–relational or otherwise, whether you are male or female.

While I have received excellent feedback from men who have read my book, the majority of the readers and responders have been women. This comes as no great surprise, given the statistics. Women have told me they’ve appreciated my candidness in sharing my experience. Some have admitted that my story has helped them realize things they have done in their own relationships.

Talking openly and honestly about relationships is a key to helping improve relationships and maintaining healthy ones. Our silence as men has contributed to the problem. I admit, it’s not always easy to share, but so much is at stake. It’s worth the risk. Let’s keep the conversation going!

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Monthly Poll

Rodney Winters | July 5, 2010

The results of last month’s poll indicated that responders viewed communication as the key to marital longevity. This month, we pose a follow-up question:

How important is counseling to the success of a relationship?

Choose your answer at the bottom right, and feel free to add a comment.

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